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Keeping the Peace With the In-Laws



Filed under : Relationships, family

By: Christina Spencer

Young Urban Moms, if your in-laws are always in your business, you can find ways to keep them involved without them overwhelming your life


When you get married, you inevitably take on a new family. This could be either a wonderful addition, or a complete nightmare. If your in-laws are always in your business, you can find ways to keep them involved without them overwhelming your life.

Express Your Expectations
If you want them to call before they come over, or you want them to only visit once a week, then communicate that to them. Don’t expect them to just know what you want. It may be difficult to get the conversation started and you may fear that you’ll upset them, but it’s better to let them know in advance what you expect before it turns into a disaster later.

Talk with Your Spouse
Talk with your spouse and make sure you’re both on the same page. If you and your husband are having a hard time deciding what’s expected, then you have to come to a compromise. Express to your spouse why you feel certain things are important to you and listen to why they’re important to him. You will have to agree, or rest assure that this will cause a rift in your relationship.

Keep Your Personal Relationship Personal
Don’t call your in-laws to complain about your husband or kids. This opens the door for them to be more involved than you may want them to be. You can ask for advice, but choose your words carefully and expect to receive advice that you may not want.

Truth is that you can live in harmony with your in-laws, if both sides understand the expectations of one another. Don’t be afraid to say how you feel and what you want out of the relationship.

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