By: Carolina Pichardo
So I have a diva of a daughter. She’s sassy, active and loud. Most importantly, she’s healthy and sharp.
Because of her personality, I’ve been accused of everything in the book.
I give her too much. I give her too little. I’m too overprotective. I shouldn’t be so overprotective. She’s spoiled.
There’s even the dire prediction that she’s going to go and become a young mom, like me…
This criticism has gotten me into arguments with family and friends, and has made raising her feel like a crazy landmine. I’ve never known the exact boundaries, whether I was overstepping them or completely missing the point. So I did the best that I could do – and only kept on doing.
Yes, we go to a lot of events and concerts. But we also volunteer at local nursing homes, visit sick friends and family, and celebrate the good, bad and small stuff with everyone in our lives. Yes, she had several birthday party celebrations. But that was on top of the random pizza parties, brunch dates and playdates in the park that we do other days during the year.
I don’t know when doing too much is too much. However, it’s the best way I know how to parent. It’s in building these experiences that I get to know her, myself and how we best grow together.
I’m not going to make excuses for it, because maybe I am horribly spoiling her.
But I’m not fearful of the outcome.
I only want what every parents wants, which is for their child to be happy, strong and themselves.
Even if she makes the same mistake of becoming a young parent.
Young Urban Moms’ co-founder, Carolina Pichardo, is a digital marketer by day, writer and community activist by night, and mom to Lulu always. You can reach her at email@example.com or on Twitter @c_pichardo.